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How To Let The Light In On A Bad Day

How To Let The Light In On A Bad Day

Not going to lie, I had a pretty rough night last night, and when I got up to go to work this morning, I wanted nothing more than to seep in the self-pity stew I managed to cook for myself somewhere in the middle of the night. As I made my way onto the parking lot that is I-95 at rush hour, the sun caught the palm trees and the bright cars next to me, so that I was forced to acknowledge the beauty despite my craving to stay in my bad mood. I felt God reaching right into me and saying, “No, today you’re looking at this awesome world I created for you.” I suddenly felt selfish. Why should I paint the entire world black when I am mad at just one person? How could I let myself attach so much of myself to another human being that guaranteed was not thinking of me at that moment?

I switched my radio station to a sermon I sometimes catch the end of, depending on whether I am on time or not, and surrendered to God. I watched the sunrise above the palms, casting a perfectly sublime glow that made traffic look like a Van Gogh. I felt the anger evaporating and faith and hope entering. I had an epiphany that the world was beautiful; my family loved me, God loved me, the sound of the pastor’s voice was comforting, the sun was the most effortless warm, no matter what anyone said or did to me in this material world. Love exists and remains, no matter what.

Often, we can let this hatred and disappointment towards one person, one circumstance, or one group consume us to the point that we lash out at everything and anything because we can’t possibly understand how broken we are. This creates an even darker circle of hate and pain around us that we soon become trapped and isolated in. We have transferred the pain that one person gave us to everyone around us. No good.

Do A Random Act of Kindness

One of the best ways to get perspective and take your mind off an issue is to convert that energy into positive energy by doing something nice for someone else. Send an unexpected Facebook message, call someone you haven’t talked to in a while, buy that homeless man dinner, take on some of another coworker’s work. Don’t let that negative energy fester → use it for the positive.

Be Real

Be honest about what’s upsetting you. Sometimes the instinct is to build massive walls and tell the world that you’re fine. It’s great to play the strong card, except people are more intuitive than you think, and they will know that something is off. Through your vulnerability, you might receive some amazing advice from someone who’s been where you are before.


Easier said than done, unplugging allows our brain to take a quick break and sort through the jumbled mess inside so we can rationally think again. Think of taking a break like turning on the windshield wipers so you can see clearly. Turn off your cell and place it in another room. Or, one of my favorite ways of unplugging, turn your phone on airplane mode for a bit. When you detach from the busy world for even 15 minutes, you allow your body some time to reset and refresh.

Get Perspective

There are two things I can do in my life that instantly give me perspective → go to church and go for a drive. Church gives me such a refreshing view of life. When I attend services, I see things in a whole new light. I get ideas for things I can do to help people and start thinking about how much more there is to my life than the one thing bothering me. As for driving, I grew up in the middle of nowhere in Wyoming and would take my dad’s ‘72 stingray out on abandoned roads when the world felt heavy. I would blare music and think about how huge the world was and how insignificant my problem suddenly seemed. I also bonded with the music I listened to, quickly realizing I was not the only one dealing with issues. To this day, I will hop in my car and drive along the ocean to be still.

We have to take ownership of our life to live it to its fullest. We cannot let one person or circumstance influence us and take away our joy. There are so many of those people and those circumstances out there that if we let every one of them impact us, we’d be living our entire lives in some prison.

Break free of anything bothering you lately, and let the light in. Rumi says it best, “The wound is where the light enters you.”

-Marji J. Sherman

Marji J. Sherman

Expert in NFTs, metaverse, social, and digital marketing.

  • David

    Hi Mari, I absolutely loved reading this! It was just what I needed.

    November 11, 2015 at 9:44 pm
    • Thanks, David! So happy it resonated with you 🙂

      November 24, 2015 at 4:49 pm
  • Maria Beatrice

    You apre absolutely right .our family,sons,daughters,sisters loves us we must aalways think about that and feel happy.

    October 1, 2017 at 7:08 pm
  • Absolutely right think about our dear ones is our strenght loving them is loving ourself

    October 1, 2017 at 7:11 pm

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